I shouldn't have to write this but it seems that some men have a problem. I have heard so many stories from escorts about the appalling way some men behave that I almost feel ashamed of my gender. I have been meeting escorts for many years and I post this in the hope that it may be seen by some of my fellow men and help them to rethink how they behave.
The first thing to say is that escorts are professionals and are entitled to the same respect as any other professional. That means being polite and making an effort to understand the basis on which a service is being offered. Read their web site or Adult Work profile carefully - and read all of it. If the escort is clear that she does not provide a particular service do not send her a message asking if she will provide it for you. If there are things you are genuinely uncertain about seek clarification but do so politely. Many escorts specifically refer to the need for clients to pay attention to hygiene and personal cleanliness. They shouldn't need to do this but they have learned from bitter experience just how slovenly some men can be. You should be clean and well presented. If you are expecting the escort to kiss you should also clean your teeth thoroughly and use any mouthwash that is offered by the escort (if you haven't taken your own with you). If you are unable to shower before your meeting let her know and she will almost certainly enable you to take a shower when you arrive - even if you did shower and you are offered the chance to do so again take it and at least make sure your genital area is scrupulously clean. It is a long time since I have been on a date except with an escort but surely anyone meeting a person they want to make a good impression on will think about personal grooming, how they dress and be polite and interested in the other person. Why not treat an escort in the same way - there is a good chance she will reciprocate and you will both have a better time than if you treat her like a piece of meat. A friend of mine thinks the problem is the nature of much of the porn that is watched by men these days and I think she is right. Dami Olonisakin (Oloni) recently published a book called The Big O. An Empowering Guide to Loving, Dating and Fucking " (HarperCollins £20).She cited a study of 800 university students which found that just 39% of women"always or usually" orgasmed during sex but 91% of men did. Another study foound that only 65% of straight women orgasmed against 86% during Lesbian sex Dr Laurie Mintz coined the term "Orgasm Gap" and in her "Becoming Cliterate"(pub. HarperOne, May 2017), she reported that 78% of women's orgasm problems were caused by not enough or not the right kind of clitoral stimulation. It seems many men, particularly young men, either don't know or don't care or maybe are just in too much of a hurry to shove their penis into a vagina. I must be honest and say it did take me some time to understand that every woman will have different needs if she is to orgasm (including treating her well before hand of course) but now I try very hard to be upfront and ask what will work and then work on that basis. And when seeing an escort I always establish whether she would like to have an orgasm during our time together. It may be that she prefers not to and saves that for when she is with a partner but if she does we talk about it and I have had some wonderful sessions when we have helped each other to come. There is so much more to be said - things like not getting pissed or drugged up before your date, not asking for services she doesn't provide and never, ever, ever asking if you can penetrate her without a condom. Never haggle about the price and deal with the payment as soon as you arrive - nothing spoils a sexy date faster than arguing about money, But this would become a pamphlet not a blog post if I do so take a look at this piece written by a sex worker in Australia which is full of good advice. Escorts are a bit like sportspeople I sometimes think - they work hard to keep their bodies in condition and use their minds to try and deliver something that works well. But like a good sports game it needs everyone to play by the same rules so please think about how you present yourself both physically and socially and you will find you have a much better time with the lady of your choice. And finally a word for those ladies being let down when it comes to orgasms - find an old guy and you won't be disappointed!
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7/11/2022 17:39:06
It's horrible to read how some men treat escorts. Those men shouldn't be allowed to make use of the escort services at all.
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